Nov 08
“Just because I want it doesn’t mean I have to have it. ” Is a mantra that can be tremendously helpful in fighting binge eating. So often, people believe that they need to satisfy their urges immediately. And why not? We live in a world where instant gratification is the norm. The media sells directly …
Oct 30
Halloween is challenging for people with eating issues for the obvious reasons- all the candy and partying everywhere. But there is also the fact that for many women, Halloween is a time to put on their sexiest outfits and throw on some horns and be a “sexy devil,” or a “sexy cat,” or a “sexy …
Sep 20
“Do The Next Right Thing,” a phrase borrowed from 12 step programs is an invaluable piece of advice. We can’t always do the right thing, but we can sit down, take stock of where we are, and do the next right thing. It might have been a terrible night. You might have drank a liter …
Aug 31
Some couples are drinking buddies. That is, they spend a lot of time going to bars together, or drinking at home together and alcohol becomes a big part of their relationship. Often these couples aren’t exactly sure what they’d do together if alcohol wasn’t accessible. Other couples are eating buddies. Their relationship revolves around food …
Aug 23
Geneen Roth wrote a book almost 20 years ago called When Food Is Love. Of course, this is using food when what you are really craving is love. A common theme that I’ve noticed in women with eating disorders is this sense of unworthiness or a belief that they are not loveable. It’s incredible to …
Jul 14
It’s not what people do that upset us, it’s our reaction to it. It’s not our thoughts or our feelings that upset us, it’s our reaction to it. One of the things that we rarely remember in recovery is that we actually have a choice. Sometimes, when we have the urge to binge, it feels …
Jul 09
Month after month, my clients come in after suffering miserably for the whole week before their periods, wishing they could take back the previous week, having binged the whole week before. What is it about PMS that makes us so bingey? I can’t tell you that I know what makes us get to the point …
Jun 05
Women are pretty. Women are sweet, petite, and certainly not angry. Did you grow up thinking that? I did. I would either completely avoid my anger (starve myself) or stuff it all down (binge). I would then deny that I had any anger, “I’m just not an angry person,” I’d tell my therapist. Now, when …