Recovery from any eating disorder takes time, patience, self love, support, and has several layers to it. The deeper you go, the more you find, and the more whole you become as you heal those deep inner wounds.

However, there are six elements to recovery that must be tended to in order to find deep recovery.

1.) Relearn how to eat regular meals.  Eat three healthy meals per day, no restricting, no dieting, no skipping meals, no calorie counting, no carb counting.

2.)Learn to hear and honor the wisdom of your  body. Ask your body what it needs in terms of nutrition and exercise and listen for an answer.

3.)Learn how to distinguish real hunger from boredom, sadness, loneliness,  anxiety and other feelings that are hard to feel.

4.)Learn how to sit with these feelings without judgment and to allow yourself to feel what you need to feel. Understanding that feelings, all of them, are okay can help you to cope with them without using food to  avoid them.

5.) Learn to accept your body the way it is. Understand that you are more than a body. You are a mind, a spirit, a soul, a being, and you have a lot to offer. Your value isn’t tied up in the size of your jeans.

6.)Cultivate interests and hobbies that make you more of who you are, so that your true SELF is who you really are, not the numbers on a scale.




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Most recent quote from community member: "Unbelievable progress. I had a slice of cake, wasn't that fussed about it and moved on. Cake is just cake! I never thought I'd get to this place. I keep thinking back to an earlier meditation when all the negative energy left down through my feet. That was really powerful. I'm planning to play it again. I've also drawn up a weekly meal plan of healthy balanced meals. This just helps to give me a bit of guidance and planning and eliminates any need for impulsive decisions when I often feel stressed after work. Amazing, thank you so much. I always hoped for hope, but n ow I feel like I'm living hope! I'm so grateful Leora. Thank you."
  • sunshine

    I was just going to post a question about how I should be eating and then I seen this great post that you had written! At one time I did eat 3 meals a day, no counting cals or carbs and no sweets. I felt awesome and I slept better and thought clearer. Do you suggest I try to continue this. 3 meals and no snacks? I know its hard but once I get going on it, I’m good. Thanks for your input!

  • Leora Fulvio

    Hi Sunshine, I think that what’s most important is being mindful of your hunger. That said, it can be very, very difficult to do that in the beginning of recovery. Sometimes it just has to be eating by the clock at the beginning. I do actually recommend scheduling in light snacks between breakfast and lunch and between lunch and dinner. A light snack can be an apple and a string cheese, or some almonds (10-12) and a fruit, or some cottage cheese or yogurt with some fruit or nuts.

  • Confused

    Hi Leora,
    I have been unable to see that I have an eating disorder re-surfacing for the past few years. Maybe its been always, as I’ve binged and felt guilt and shame since I can remember. Today, I ate a bowl of cereal for lunch, and for dinner carrots with light vegie dip, and two thick slices of french bread. Then I totally lost control, which I sometimes do with sweets and ate a york peppermint pattie, two hersheys hugs chocolates, and a candy mint, all in less than 5 minutes. I have only purged once in the past year, but I feel so disgusted for eating this much today. It feels like shame for eating, and total loss of control and my legs feel like they are 3 inches wider, and I’m scared of the weight increasing. I am 5’5″. A year ago I weighed 115. I dropped to 100, then 95, then 90, then 85, then within the past two months I go between 90-95 and I am totally uncomfortable. I feel I could be happy if I stayed at 85. My therapist thinks I’m irrational, and is worried she can’t help me. I don’t understand why I feel so good when I go a day or a week, or longer without eating, and I don’t even get hungry. But when I have an appetite and I eat I want to take a knife and carve the fat off my legs and stomach. No matter how much or how little I eat, its too much. Its frustrating. I want to eat normally because I’m having chest pressure/pain and back pain and no energy or motivation other than to sleep. I don’t know what help I need, not sure if I’m a binge eater or anorexic, or what? Where do I even begin because I don’t want to gain weight, I don’t want to eat more and I HATE myself when I eat as much as I did tonight. I’m doing my best to avoid purging. I can’t believe I’m admitting this. Its just I’ve tried so many things to work on self-acceptance, love, etc, and no matter what, I can’t rid myself of this shame when I eat. Any suggestions?

    • Leora Fulvio

      I’m so sorry that you’re dealing with this right now. But given the situation that you described, you have a very, very serious eating disorder. I would ask your therapist to refer you to a higher level of care, either an IOP or an inpatient treatment center. Given your very low weight with your self-harming thoughts, it’s very important that you get yourself in treatment with more than just an outpatient therapist. Where are you located? Have you seen a doctor who specializes in eating disorders? Or a therapist who does? Please look on Ed Referral for an appropriate care provider.