So many of my clients come in with this pressure to be better.

They follow 12-step skincare routines. They take supplements, meditate 20 minutes a day, track their sleep, steps, heart rate, hormones, moods. They come to therapy religiously. They have morning routines, night routines, magnesium gummies in four forms.

And still… it never feels like enough. Except all along, they’ve been doing too much. Too much to even get the benefit. They are burnt out by trying to keep up with their self-care. 

Not healthy enough. Not happy enough. Not thin enough. Not glowing enough. Not rich enough. Just—not enough.

We live in a culture obsessed with “fixing,” and that obsession didn’t just fall out of the sky. It was sold to us.

Someone decided to sell skin cream, and someone else at an ad agency said,

“Let’s tell women they’re broken—and then sell them something to fix it.”

Then we have influencer culture. They have glass skin, color-coded routines, and curated wellness practices.

But they’re not quietly healthy people, they are business people in the wellnessphere. They’re selling you an aesthetic that’s just out of reach.

We live in an economy that depends on people feeling broken—so it can keep selling them things to fix themselves.

So what if you just… stopped? What if you just decided not to participate in this economic system and instead, your investment in yourself wasn’t financial but it was reclaiming your time and your sanity? 

What if you looked at all of your rituals and routines and just asked yourself:

“Do I love this? Or do I think I should love this?”

What if you kept only what felt good—and let the rest go?

Or maybe you’re on the other end of the spectrum, where you don’t do any of it. You sit there feeling like you should. 
You don’t meditate. You don’t journal. You don’t drink celery juice.
And so you quietly hate yourself for not doing the things that everyone else seems to be doing.

But it’s so much simpler than all of that. The point of these rituals is just to like yourself more and by liking yourself more, you’ll be happier. 

So, wouldn’t it be nice to skip all the routines and  go straight to liking yourself?

What if you could walk around all the gatekeepers and gurus and glowing TikTokers
and just say, “Actually, I’m good. I’ll be over here, liking myself anyway.”

And by taking your power back, by not participating in a predatory system that teaches women to hate themselves in order to sell products, that is how you fix yourself.