So many of my clients come in with this pressure to be better.

They follow 12-step skincare routines. They take supplements, meditate 20 minutes a day, track their sleep, steps, heart rate, hormones, moods. They come to therapy religiously. They have morning routines, night routines, magnesium gummies in four forms.

And still… it never feels like enough.

Not healthy enough. Not happy enough. Not thin enough. Not glowing enough. Not rich enough. Just—not enough.

We live in a culture obsessed with “fixing,” and that obsession didn’t just fall out of the sky. It was sold to us.

Someone decided to sell skin cream, and someone else at an ad agency said,
“Let’s tell women they’re broken—and then sell them something to fix it.”

Cue: influencers.
With their glass skin, color-coded routines, and curated wellness practices.
But they’re businesspeople, too. They’re selling you an aesthetic that’s just out of reach.

We live in a world that needs people to feel broken—so it can keep selling them things to fix themselves.

But what if you just… stopped?

What if you looked at all the rituals and routines and just asked yourself:

“Do I love this? Or do I think I should love this?”

What if you kept only what felt good—and let the rest go?

Or maybe you’re on the other end of the spectrum—
You don’t do any of it. You sit there feeling like you should.
You don’t meditate. You don’t journal. You don’t drink celery juice.
And so you quietly hate yourself for not doing the things that everyone else seems to be doing.

But what if the answer is simpler than all that?

What if the point of these rituals is just to like yourself more—
and what if you could skip the rituals and just go straight to liking yourself?

What if you could walk around all the gatekeepers and gurus and glowing TikTokers
and just say, “Actually, I’m good. I’ll be over here, liking myself anyway.”

No upgrades needed. No fix required.

Just you, giving yourself a big, radical, quiet hug.